Blocked but confused and hurt

I met this girl while doing laundry the other night. We both helped this other guy jumpstart his car, she had the cables and I drove over to where his car was to give him the boost. Through talking we found out we were all the same ethnicity LMAO in a place where our ethnicity isn't common.

So I got to talking to her while waiting for my laundry and she was open to talking, very delightful and genuine girl, she's 27 I'm 24, I ask her if she's with someone because I don't want to bother her if she is, she tells me she's gay... but I still figured we could talk and later figured when we related on things we could be good friends.

So we get to talking more I find out we actually both live in the same neighborhood 20 min away, we both work similar jobs, both moved out from our parents' place due to "issues" which are common in our culture. We both laughed at our misfortune of trying to make it living on our own, she rents a what she described as a "ghetto ass" basement and has two cats and I got a room (which she told me I was getting ripped off on the price lol) and left my cats with my family. I miss them so much. Don't get to see them often because I can't be around abusive family. She told me her credit was shot and told her I felt for her because I recently went through that myself.

So in the beginning she was super engaged telling me about herself, and I could tell over the course of the discussion she looked disinterested even angry for a split second and then it felt awkward and I ended it to get our laundry.

I did get nervous and go on these tangents which seemed to put her off. Then I got excited because we related on many things and I started getting really talkative about my cats. After this point in the convo it starts to feel a little awkward like she doesn't know how to respond , but then it picks back up again, idk how. But anyways, i end it to get our laundry and then she hands me her phone I put my number in. And I shake her hand tell her have a great night stay safe and walk away feeling the awkwardness. And feeling like i "failed" idk what that meant. She left before me, kinda stayed in my car just processing what happened.

I called her like 5 min after she left, i asked if she wanted to talk on the drive back, she said she was listening to a podcast, I got the message. "Ok, alright talk soon, have a good night talk soon" *click*.

Next morning i text her some cat video from instagram, no response

two days later I texted her if she had any plans to watch a world cup game where our home country was playing, no response.

two days after that, I said ok you know what maybe I call her, most likely she's working now, I'll leave a voicemail and get it off my chest,

something like "hey it was nice to meet you the other night, it was fun to find someone from the same background who was going through similar experiences, you struck me as an outdoorsy person (she just did), I like to do all that sort of stuff would love if you could introduce me to some good hikes in the area, since I'm new here."

called went straight to voicemail twice

I pretty sure the talkativeness mixed with not pulling away when she looked a little annoyed at me going on tangents mixed with me calling her right after is what did it for me.

What do y'all think of all this?

I felt the awkwardness but instead of walking away I just kept on talking hoping it would go away. I feel genuinely stupid like I messed up on making a great friend because I wouldn't shut the **** up.

We shared the same enthusiasm in the beginning and same humor and I genuinely thought for a sec something was there, but I guess not.

Posted Jul 11, 2026, 1:39 PM UTC

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