my bf of 3 years is a girl

idek if this is the place to rant lmao but don’t repost or use this as a story 🤦‍♀️

i dated what i thought was a man for 3 years (on and off) just to find out yesterday he was a masc lesbian the whole time, first question is probably “why didn’t u guys call while dating for 3 years” we did but he muted every time because i respected his privacy .. another thing that confused me is how he got away with it so well bc i would’ve never guessed that was a girl the whole time, i received voice messages, videos, audios, pictures.. and it was all a man and all his socials never seemed like a girl was behind it either . this makes me wonder if everything was real or if there was somebody else the whole time during our rls, the person who i’d thought i shared many memories with was all a lie like was i just his testing piece to see if he thought he was trans or did he mean to do that to me?? dating a women is such a non issue for me because im bisexual and i can do both and i feel like if he was to come out to me sooner in the beginning of our rls i would’ve let things keep going and would’ve let him be happy. but we haven’t dated since may 2025 or that’s the last time we shared our feelings with each other and since i’ve known him for almost 4 years it isn’t bothering me im just a little disappointed . i asked him yesterday if he preferred being called his real name because i didn’t wanna upset him and call him the name he was trying to erase from social media ,, so now im calling him by his irl and use she her pronouns but when i talk ab him to people i use his old name still . the way he got caught isn’t surprising to me and i’m glad it’s not a lie anymore but the only thing recking me is that this didn’t change the way i felt about him . i still love him to death and who i thought was my forever person, his feelings for me don’t remain anymore and for awhile now but i was supportive towards him when he told me about him being a girl the whole time. now i’m wondering if this made me lesbian for 4 years lmao

what’s your thoughts on this cus idk what to do it’s all so new to me now