Do avoidants come back after removing/blocking you everywhere?

My ex F22 and I M25 were together for almost 2 years. We broke up mid April because she thought “we were incompatible” and “it’s better to end things now while we still love each other than years down the road when we grow to resent each other.” The reason I was given for the incompatibility was that I want to see her 3 days a week. The breakup came 2 weeks after we were touring apartments to move into together and talking about engagement. She graduated in May about 3 weeks after the breakup.

The breakup was non toxic. She called me 2 days before the breakup and told me she wanted to breakup. Then we spent the next two days talking about things eventually she sent me a text saying she made up her mind. She said she would like to meet for closure but then kept giving reasons why she couldn’t. Eventually she blocked me on iMessage, and unfriended me on Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook and TikTok. The morning after the breakup she asked her parents to meet me for breakfast.

I was moving out of my apartment so I sent her mom a text asking for my apartment key back as my ex had one of the originals. She said my ex had a box of stuff and would leave it on the porch. When I got to their house my ex was sitting on the steps to their porch and looked like she had been in bed all day with her cat. She gave me my box of stuff, cried, gave me a long hug and said goodbye. I told her I loved her and she looked at me while crying, paused and said “I care about you.”

Since mid April we’ve been in no contact. Her mom still views my Instagram stories and I think she has post notifications or something turned on for me because she views them within 5-30 minutes of them being posted. My exes mom is very much a helicopter mom. I also noticed that my exes alternate Instagram account unfollowed me a few weeks ago. Then earlier this week she unfollowed me on Linkedin.

I haven’t tried to communicate with her since the breakup but it seems even after 3 months she’s still trying to create distance and space. The entire time we were breaking up she told me how happy she was, how she would always remember our trips and how much fun we had together but she just thinks we’re incompatible and we’re going to grow to hate each other.

It’s been 3 months and I’ve heard nothing from her. The closest thing I have to a breadcrumb is her mom watching my stories (which I know probably gets relayed to her). From everything I’ve read about attachment styles I would definitely place her in the fearful avoidant category. Now that I’ve learned more about attachment styles some of her behaviors makes sense. I’ve thought about her everyday since the breakup.

Has anyone else had an avoidant ex return after 3+ months of complete silence from them and being blocked/removed on everything?