Did I do the right thing ?

Really I can’t even call it a break up, we didn’t date.

I recently sent an avoidant a voice text from my friends phone saying like it was my final goodbye, I still cared but I believed this is what he wanted, and that I was sorry for the grief i caused him and sorry for how it ended.

This was after 4 months of him ghosting me — after two years of a slow build friendship to having feelings for each other (or so I thought ?) idk. The worst part is just not being worth even a reply.

Like — I was trying to be empathic and patient because the situation is complex and I know he has trauma. But in turn he kind of traumatized me through this.

I lost not only a friend of years but a guy who I hold deep romantic feelings toward and I feel so confused.