TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 27.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free to DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not DM me.

31 [M4F] #harrisburg #pa #usa — Soft Dom with hard kinks looking for a curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for the LTR to end all LTRs.