A discussion to have with women

Hey everyone. I'm going through a divorce and it's not yet over. But I feel like I need to find my people, find other women who can relate to me.

Have you ever comforted him through his pain over losing you? His pain over treating you badly and not appreciating you? Him telling you he doesn't deserve good things and dealing with the whole range of emotions of a painful breakup? Him still coming to you when he's in pain even tho HE hurt YOU?

If you've done this a long time ago, how do you feel now that it's over and you're out of it? What is it like in retrospect?

And if you're currently going through this, why? Why do you still care about his wellbeing if he's the one who hurt you and caused the divorce?