Is this worth holding on to?

Hi everyone,

I’ve been seeing someone for some time now. We met online, connected really deeply, and decided to try long-distance (haven’t met in person yet)

Lately things feel so heavy. He says he’s still healing from past hurts, struggles with feeling good enough about himself, and pulls away sometimes even when we care so much. We have moments that feel so right, like we’re building something real… then suddenly distance isn’t just miles — it feels like walls too.

I’ve been patient, understanding, praying for him and us, and trying my best to meet him where he is. But sometimes I wonder:

• When someone loves you but can’t yet love themselves fully — how much can you really help?

• How do I tell if he’s just taking time to heal… or if I’m waiting for something that won’t change?

• Is it fair to stay this invested when I get little reassurance back?

I don’t want to pressure him or push him. But my heart gets tired too.

What would you honestly think or do in my shoes? I’d really appreciate perspectives — thank you 💛