How do you stop hoping they’ll come back?

My 3 year relationship ended a month ago. I was quite blind sided. Only weeks beforehand, we’d been speaking to mortgage brokers, looking at houses to buy, etc. we also had a holiday planned, with flights and accommodation booked. It was very future orientated.

He broke it off with me because he thought we were no longer compatible and he was no longer in love.

When I’ve asked him about potentially reconciling in the future he said ‘I don’t want you holding onto hope.’ ‘For now, I can never see us getting back together.’ But part of me’s hoping that time spent apart may change his perspective.