Tired of people thinking I’ll end up wanting more kids

I just had my second kid a month ago.

I hated being pregnant the first time, hated it more the second time. When I had my first, I definitely didn’t want to do all the pregnancy and postpartum again, but I did because I wanted more than one kid.

I told my husband after the second I am done. He agreed that when we were done he would get a vasectomy.

Since my 6 week appointment is coming up and I’m probably going to get the “all clear” I told him he should look into the vasectomy and he wants to wait.

He said it’s permanent and we shouldn’t “jump right in” to a permanent decision in case WE change our mind that we want more kids later. He wants to wait 2 years and then said he’d get one.

I know it’s easy to say because I’m in the trenches right now, but I absolutely don’t want more kids. Pregnancy sucks, postpartum sucks, we don’t have more room in our house, and we can’t afford another kid unless I work, which I can’t do until kids are in school.

Any time I tell people I’m done at 2 kids, they hit me with the “you never know, you might change your mind”

I just wish I could close the chapter is having babies and be 100% done. I know my husband has a choice over his body too, so waiting 2 years is his choice, but now I feel like I’m going to have 2 years of worrying about getting pregnant since I don’t want to go back on birth control because it makes me insane.