Thoughts on Trauma Informed ABA?

I am therapist shopping because I have never found anyone who could actually help me with my autistic symptoms. They tend to stop at ADHD and guess from there. Ive found a practice that is actually specializing in late diagnosed AudHD adults (woo!!!).

One of the therapists that Im looking into uses Trauma informed ABA, and is an Advanced Certified Autism Specialist. I have a lot of hard times with therapists trying to understand me through a NT lens or try to fit me in an NT box, and Ive heard horror stories about ABA... but are things different now? I just want someone to finally not look at me like Im a toddler when I explain what happens when I have a meltdown and how to actually calm myself the fuck down lol