Future Vbac

Hi! I had a C-section almost a year ago and am considering another child soon. The thought of having a VBAC ruminates my mind constantly. I have talked to my husband about his thoughts and because of his trauma regarding the first birth - he would prefer I have a scheduled c-section. For whatever reason the thought of having a vaginal birth is so desirable to me.

My story:
I had a relatively easy pregnancy except having carpel tunnel starting at 17 weeks. I did gain about 50 lbs and was very swollen with pitting edema in my legs in the last trimester.

I was induced at 41+3. When I went in - they asked if I had felt and contractions and I said no - she told me that I had contractions without any interventions) I labored with pitocin and citotec for about 34 hrs before my blood pressure spiked and chose an epidural with the thought that it would go down. It worked and sped up my dilation. 6 hrs later I was fully dilated and my water broke a few hours later. They did find a bit of meconium in the water. They had me start pushing and I pushed for 4 hrs. I don’t fully remember what station she was at (I think -2) but the OB said that she had stalled for 2 hrs and that her head was swelling. I was so tired at this point and scared that something bad was going to happen. The OB suggested a c-section but did not state that it was an emergency.

We proceeded with the c-section. She was born healthy and happy. She was in the 90th percentile in head size and weight (9lb 8 oz). I hemorrhaged 1.5 L of blood and needed a blood transfusion the following day.

Questions:
The questions I have are for the future. We haven’t decided on when we’d like another child. I’m 11 months PP and almost to pre-pregnancy weight which I consider about 10 lbs more than I’d like. My goal is to lose the 10 lbs before we have another. Here are my questions:

- Is there anything I should be doing now to help with the possibility of having a TOLAC for a future pregnancy?
- I’m curious if anyone has thought they had a misdiagnosed GD? I was 2 pts away from being diagnosed with GD at the 3 hr test (failed the 1 hr) and I’m wondering if I should have been. Would this have caused her to be so large?
- what are the pros and cons to having a TOLAC?