Torn as to what to do? Any inputs appreciated.
This will sound like a first world problem but it really isn’t. I am desperately trying to figure out what my next steps are and all the overthinking is stopping me from taking a rational decision .
39F. Family consists of husband, myself and one 4rth grade kid no other family. I am the primary parent and we have what we call a functional marriage. By primary parent, I am fully responsible for the kid and home - dropping off, picking up, camps, appointments, lunches, you name it. I also take care of the cleaning and upkeep of the home other than the usual ‘manly’ work though I do have help twice a week and order a lot of food.
We have high net worth (10M excluding primary residence which is half paid off) most of which is my husband’s contribution. He is a high earner and makes 6 times more than me. The increase in NW and his salary is a recent phenomenon when his company became successful.
My work is extremely flexible and chill but I do not like it. I used to but not anymore as I have reached a ceiling and have grown to realize most of it is corporate BS. The team also changed and overall it’s not the place I used to love. Most of it is also psychological because of our increase in NW and suddenly I am questioning why do I need to tolerate it especially I have to be a mom and finances are OK.
I am seriously thinking of quitting and taking a break. However I am scared because it will be almost impossible to find work again (though I won’t be returning to the same type of work). I am also scared to be financially dependent in case we end up getting divorced. Lastly I am (or used to be) one of the working type who loves socializing outside of home. Our finances are combined. No prenup or postnup. We live in 50/50 state.
Part of me wants to quit and take a break and see what happens. Another opting is to do part time so I have something to do. Third is keep up the momentum, apply and play the corporate game though I am scared it’s going to be lot with being a mom and work. Last option is to learn to love my current work due to the insane flexibility but not sure whether it’s even possible.
What do you all think is the most rational decision?
Posted Jul 13, 2026, 4:27 PM UTC