Friend getting married in a few months and I’m basically a bridesmaid without the title

I have been helping one of my friends through the planning process of her bridal shower and bachelorette party. She’s getting married in a few months! I offered my help months ago knowing she wasn’t going to do the traditional bridesmaids thing. But this weekend was her bridal shower and I feel like I worked so hard to make it special. I think she enjoyed it, but at the beginning some people were late and she was asking me where they were (I knew just as much as she did), and with setting up I felt like she was micromanaging with some things. She’s been that way with the bachelorette too. We talked about what she wanted to do, and I know her well and wouldn’t plan anything she wouldn’t want to do. This is just something I wanted to do for her to make it a special experience! And I’m not trying to complain she’s the bride, but I was thinking of it after this weekend and I feel like I’m doing so much to make this a good experience for her because I want to be a good friend, but I don’t even get the honor of standing up there with her. It didn’t bother me until now. And I don’t think it would bother me at all if I felt like she wasn’t on top of me. I didn’t think of that until now. What would you do in this situation?