F24 in new relationship, feeling emotionally disconnected from M24, what to do?

Hi,

I recently made a relationship official with someone I met/been talking to since March. Before we made the relationship official, we had already been exclusive since the second date because we were so into each other. However, since we’ve made it official I feel like I’ve started to lose emotional momentum in the relationship. The physical aspect is great and this is the first time I’ve been super attracted to someone, and we have a lot of fun joking around and talking about different topics. We also have a lot in common in our values and views on religion and politics.

However, since we made it official around two weeks ago, I’ve met his family and all his close friends, and I’ve noticed myself starting to get increasingly irritated with him. For starters, he can sometimes be quite insensitive when it comes other people’s feelings, including mine and even his family and friends. He’s pretty dismissive when he doesn’t understand how someone feels, and he’s logical and practical to the point where it’s hard for me to emotionally connect with him on things sometimes. I know he’s capable of taking things seriously when necessary, but he also jokes around to the point where it seems like everything is a joke to him and he doesn’t know when his jokes aren’t tactful or appropriate.

I know we just started dating, but I also don’t know if I should be feeling this way this early on, or maybe I need to give it some more time to develop emotionally. I also have difficulty expressing my needs in a relationship and I usually try to adjust myself to the other person so sometimes I don’t feel comfortable voicing things to him because it feels like he will dismiss it.

For context, my last relationship was around 7 years and very emotionally intense and turbulent, which is why in comparison I’ve always felt more safe, calm and comfortable with my new boyfriend since he’s so logical and rational. I also think I was emotionally burnt out from my last relationship which could also be why I feel this way in my new one.

I’m also very inexperienced in relationships. This is my second one, so I am not sure what a normal progression looks like.

If anyone has any thoughts of advice on this situation, please let me know!