I feel so stuck I dont even know where to start

Note: This is kinda Family Advice and Financial Advice at the same time so please keep that in mind.

Im 22M and my fiance is 22F, we are currently parents of 1.

To keep it simple and as brief as possible, last year around the end of March, I was let go from my job, with no unemployment. They filed that I quit instead, when the department that I was working in was being shutdown. This all happened a week before my child was born. Ive been unemployed ever since technically. And during that time Me and my fiance were living under my mother.

Then 2 months afterwards, my mother and I got into a fight, she kicked us out so, desperate we stayed with her grandparents for a few months. They were welcoming at first but after a while they started acting weird, as if they were annoyed that we were living there. So me and fiance discussed if we should save up for a down payment for an apartment or move to a foreign country where her main family lives, she claimed that things like insurance and housing are cheaper over there and we would be better off because we would basically have multiple incomes flowing into the same household. She seemed really convinced that moving there would definitely work so I agreed.

Now, at this time me and my fiance applied to so many jobs aggressively, got a few interviews, she got lucky and landed a part-time position at Burlington. I, however wasn't so lucky, only landing a few interviews but none of them securing me a position. Nonetheless we had a deadline to save for plane tickets and packaging fees to send our stuff over there. I, doing some research ended up doing self-employment work for doordash. Grinding doordash whenever my fiance didn't work that day, otherwise I would've been at home taking care of our kid. I ended up being the one that was making the majority of the income. Compare 400 to 600 a week to my fiances 150 a week.

Eventually we do it in 2 months with even having money leftover to spend over at the foreign country. And we make it and switch documentation, insurances, and settle in. Now mind you this foreign country mainly speaks the foreign language, English only really being apparent in tourist areas. I don't speak the foreign language that well, can't even hold a conversation, only minor exchanges. So we both apply for jobs. After a few months she ended up finding one at a fast food restaurant.

Me, however :/ I applied for everything around my area, and a lot of positions that are located in the main tourist area where English is a lot more prevalent. No return calls or emails. The end of the this month marks the full year we have both been here. And I haven't been able to land anything. Ive even and currently am trying to do online content to try to make do but the time I need to take care of our kid, really hinders the progress and not to mention the luck necessary to make a living off of it.

And her family let me just say is all over the place, Including us its a household of 8 and my fiance and I get scolded a lot. Sometimes for things we weren't aware of doing or had no bad intentions for. And at first I understood but sitting here after a year, Im tired. Really tired. I discussed multiple times with my fiance that I feel as though I cant comfortably raise my kid how I want to under this roof and that I want us to achieve our own place apartment or not for peace of mind. But the thing is, she absolutely refuses to live with my mom again, saying that my mom treats her and me bad, and judges a lot when Im not there. Which I believe because I had experienced all of that and more. But I dont feel comfortable here anymore, at all. When I talk to her about how I feel about her family she understands how I feel, the majority of the time.

Not to mention I now have a defaulted federal loan from student aid from lack of payments, because Ive had no income for so long. So now I feel as though to get rid of that debt I am running out of time. Ive really been considering moving out with her back to the United States and start fresh and grind Doordash again just for us to get by, Im willing to do nearly anything for peace of mind and I told her this. She did bring up though that housing and insurance here is cheaper and to be fair it is. But I feel as though its pointless if I can't land a job here.

What do I do?? I really dont know if I should put my foot down and have us move back to the states with my mom's help or stay here and try to continue finding jobs. What do I do???