how have YOU contributed to the failing dating scene in London?

i’ve seen a lot of talk about the dating scene here in London being abysmal, including many posts here on reddit, alongside my own and friends experiences. people tend to complain about the shitty things that a romantic interest has done to them whilst dating, but I wanna hear people owning up to what they’ve done to inadvertently cause this tragic dating scene.
you probably have contributed to it. it could be a plethora of things that flew over ur head. and what was your excuse? anything from ghosting talking stages that were going somewhat well, to not responding to matches on hinge, to simply believing that “the grass is greener”.

personally, i’ve ghosted people before because they’d grown an unhealthy obsession with me, and crossed serious boundaries. both physically and emotionally. however, those people deserve to be ruled out, and I think i was doing everyone a favour ‘fucking up’ the already declining dating scene here in london, because hopefully my ghosting has led to those assholes leaving women alone entirely. i’ve also led people on, not my proudest of doings but as a woman it’s always a gamble on whether letting them down straight up is gonna go smoothly, or take a turn for the worst.

and I’ve hated “realising” that this shitty dating scene is something that i may have contributed to, and that my past actions could be the reason why people haven’t found success in dating here in london, in like a domino effect kinda way? but i do believe that i had made the right choices for those situations. anyone feel the same or have any stories they wanna tell? all replies are welcome. no judgement zone!