How do you survive

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So I found out 2 weeks ago that my husband of 9 years has been having an affair for the last 2 years with someone from work. As soon as I confronted him he confirmed it, told me he didn't love me anymore and he loved her then left.

We have a 12 year old daughter and a son who has just turned 1. The timeline means they started up just before I got pregnant and have been seeing each other the whole time.

What makes it worse is he regularly has his work friends over and this woman is a regular guest. She spends new years eve with us, she was here for our son's first birthday, she has slept over on numerous occasions and refers to herself as auntie xxxxx to our children. She even used to text me about random things acting all friendly.

The level of disrespect and bare faced lies is staggering.

How am I supposed to move forward?

I was a good wife, we had a regular healthy sex life, the house was always clean and I ran myself into the ground to make sure the home was always a relaxing space for him (bare in mind we both worked full time too)

The worst thing now is I can't even hold onto the anger, I'm just sad. Why should I miss him! Why does the thought of then sat cuddling at night torment me. They don't deserve any of my emotions!

Also he wants to be able to take the children to his "new home". I know I can't control it but the thought of that woman around my children makes my blood boil!

When does it get better?