Need an insight into what my chances of failure are

I have a high performance ocd, over achiever from a very young age. As much as i hate to say it, ocd does affect other areas of my life too. A key aspect which really affected me recently was the obsession with my partners past, repeatedly asking for affirmations and details and replaying convos in my mind. Characteristic features of ocd. Ultimately we separated cuz i knew from the bottom of my heart that i will eventually end up hurting her.
I would like to clarify that i have no inclination towards wanting a virgin partner. My question is am i doomed for a healthy relationship? I hate the idea of getting to know someone for a month or two and eventually ending things cuz i have this uncontrollable monkey that wants everything to be perfect.