99 [F4M] #TX A Word of Encouragement

Ok, I’m not actually looking for anyone (hence the absurd age) so don’t DM me. I’m posting mostly just to encourage y’all, guys and girls. Take this just as a “don’t give up” from a girl who is very happy (and for so unbelievably lucky) in her AP situation.

I’m pretty sure a lot of you men have DMed me, at least if you’re in Texas. Some of you I’ve reached out to myself at some point. And for whatever reason it just wasn’t a match.

As a woman on this app, it is very overwhelming to post and then be flooded with messages from literally hundreds of men. Some say “hey.” Some say something completely filthy and unsolicited. Some are self-deprecating (don’t do that guys, it’s not cute). Some are genuine sweethearts but the physical attraction isn’t there. Some are extremely handsome but have the shittiest personalities. So we spend hours combing through message after message before settling on someone. And it feels like we’ve found the right connection, but then a few weeks in we get ghosted, or see them posting looking for someone else. Rinse, repeat.

For the men, you guys are really up against a wall. There are so few actual women here looking for genuine connections. You take a chance and put yourself out there (some of you posting daily/weekly), only to be met with bots, men pretending to be women, or gay men who clearly didn’t read your post about not being into that lifestyle. And then when you finally think you’re connecting with someone, boom, you’re hit with a link to an OF page or some other pay wall for content. Rinse. Repeat.

We are all out here looking for connection. Whether it’s because you have a dead bedroom, or just crave some sort of sexual excitement, or even just someone who is excited to talk to you rather than annoyed by your presence. Some of yall have lives that look perfect to the onlooker, but inside something is missing and broken. And despite what the holier than thou masses would like to say, divorce is not always the easiest option or an option at all. So we seek. Seek connection. Seek those butterflies. Seek good, fulfilling sex.

Regardless of your reasons for being here, the constant cycle of “Did I find my AP? Damn. Not this one…” can be so discouraging. But don’t give up. Maybe you won’t find that perfect fit in this random subreddit. But maybe you will. I did. And I feel so damn fortunate. But as someone who knows that sole-aching loneliness of being in a marriage where you’re practically invisible, my heart is with those of you craving that deep connection you’re not getting at home. Everyone deserves to feel desired and seen and valued. And I hope all your spouses will one day wake up and fill your cups with that soul validation. But if they don’t, or until they do, I hope you keep looking. Life’s too short to be unhappy. So be patient. Keep searching. And maybe you’ll strike gold!