My mom has become my worst enemy and I’m not sure why

It started about March of this year. I (F19) have been having an extreme rough patch with my mom (F48) that’s genuinely making me start seeing her differently.

Around the time the fighting started (March), there was a specific stressful and ongoing situation with our family’s dog, which required us all (especially my mom and I) to constantly care for the dog. This took up a lot of time and energy, and I tried my best to help my mom out. My mom is very bad in dealing with problems so not only was the dog stressing me out, but my mom’s extreme anxiety was also taking a toll on me. I will admit this did come up once in an explosive argument between me and my parents, so I did accuse her of stressing me out in a moment of anger, which I got reprimanded for. We had been having this tension before so while this didn’t cause it, it also didn’t make it any better.

Anyway, the fights started usually in the car on the way to class. I can’t drive; it’s been an ongoing work in progress because I have had many obstacles. I definitely understand her frustration with having to drive her college aged kid to class every day. But it was not just an issue that would come up every once in a while. She used it as almost an

The fights were constant and usually started in the car so it wasn’t something I could just evade. I wouldn’t say she started every single argument but it was most of them. She has this tendency to completely misunderstand something I’ve said, get mad about it, and then start completely creating new details. It’s not intentional but I think she does have a different version of things in her head sometimes and work off of that. It got so bad I didn’t want to come home occasionally because I was tired of the fighting and it felt like I couldn’t do anything right. She would even find ways to be mad at me just for being upset, even if it had nothing to do with her. It’s at a point now where I genuinely just don’t like being around her. She’s not someone I could consider my friend or go on girls days with anymore. Every conversation turns into an argument or a court case, and she almost always plays the victim.

My dad knows about this and while he does empathize, he also tells me we have to just sort it out. She is pre-menopausal, so it makes sense. But what I don’t understand is why it’s specifically ME she does this to. She does it a little to my brother and dad, but not to extent it is with me. She practically targets me, she’s inconsiderate and we can’t even talk it out because it goes nowhere. I hate being in my house even when she’s nice because I just don’t like being around her anymore. I do have my own emotional problems so I’m not completely innocent. But the difference is I can at least talk about it with my dad to find a solution and feel better and make progress, my mom doesn’t help me at ALL. She used to be my main confidant but now I could practically swear she hates me or something. I don’t know what to do.