Is this a red flag?

Hello,
Me (28f) is currently dating (29m). We both come from very difficult backgrounds concerning domestic violence in childhood and trauma in our lives.
We both have the same diagnoses, bipolar and adhd.
We met online in a chat room one month ago and he promised to fly to my country so we can meet by New Year’s Eve.
The thing I am concerned about is that he seems to be extremely hypersexual and always bringing up sex in inappropriate times. Like for instance there was this one time we were video chatting when I was bawling my eyes out after my father hit me and I had an ice pack to my face and he still kept making sexual jokes even though ive told him to stop. Then later he said he was slightly tipsy.
I’ve also noticed the more id try to get to know him the more sexual he would get when we get to deeper and less surface level questions.
I know he is not using me for sex and that he has hypersexuality from his past trauma, but it’s a little bit triggering to me some of the things he would say. After telling him about my triggers he did stop.
I basically need clarity on if this relationship is healthy or not because my best friend says he has a bad feeling about this.