When did you realise that you have become just like your mum?

When did you realise that you have become like your mum? Like i love my mum she’s great but whenever she has a fight with my dad, brother or me she just thinks that she is the victim and she’s always right and she keeps saying stuff during the fight that will make the fight even worse and says that all of us hate her and she thinks is the most innocent person in the world. I realised that i behave the exact same while having fights with my bf.