This special boy is Mr.Beans.  
He is the mayor of Beantown.  
And when hungry, he screams.

Hi I’m new here! I’m 33f both of my biological parents have BPD.  

I never met my dad because he’s violent to the point he’s always in and out of jail, but he terrorized my family plenty throughout my childhood. So most of what I hear about him is from my half brother. 

My mom was the “main” parent I had growing up she has co-morbid Bipolar and NPD. I’ve been no contact with her since the beginning of COVID in 2020, I had just moved to a new town and didn’t tell her where I was going so I changed my number too and I’ve been free from her abuse ever since. 

Because my mother was so unstable her parents cared for me a lot of the time and I consider them equally my primary caregivers. Her dad (my grandpa) also has BPD but his is just BPD and he’s done work to be a decent parental figure to me but we’ve set our boundaries and agreed not to be close. 

Both grandparents on my dad’s side are uBPD. 

My half sister has BPD as well but somehow she chose to go NC with me because she was terrified of me “abandoning” her like I did our mom and I have a lot of respect for that as it’s honestly it’s such a relief it was her choice and not mine. 

So my only immediate family members that for certain don’t have BPD are my grandma and my half brother on my dad’s side. So my only normal family relationship is with my grandma who I’ve adopted as my substitute mom. None of our other family knows I travel about 8 hours round trip to meet her once a month in secret to hang out so we can still have a healthy relationship and keep me safe. 

For the record I don’t have any type of personality disorder. So I’m genuinely here to join in on the giving and receiving of support because it’s such a hard and lonely life healing from being raised by borderlines. I still struggle with all the negative mental health effects of the CPTSD I developed from growing up how I did. 

I still wish accountability were real, it would probably heal me a lot just to hear any of my BPD parental figures acknowledge and admit exactly what they did and why it was wrong. So thanks for having me here, I’m glad this place exists so I can share, relate and know I’m not the only one. I hate that you all had to experience this too. <3

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