Focus on things that matter!

I understand traditions and conservative values to a certain extent, but some of the requirements being posted here are absolutely insane. I [M26] have received a few proposals and seen quite a few posts on here, and it just baffles me.

People do realize that we are living in an insane generation, where finding a good human being as a partner is a rarity in itself, right? These superficial demands and requirements, stemming from their own mental projections and insecurities, are ruining their choices. Please sit down and understand your 'needs' and 'wants'. Write them down, keeping your future in mind. Needs are non-negotiable aspects and wants are negotiable desires.

I have seen some crazy stuff - v-card [vrgn], single child, smoking, drinking. I absolutely do agree that addictions are bad. But do people understand their own priorities? Have they never seen a fully susheel sanskaari vrgn guy who doesn't smoke or drink but who participates in DV and abuse? Why do people never prioritize a decent character or kindness or humility first?

They think that if a guy/girl is not vrgn, they are not loyal? That is a fact enough for you to be the judge of their character? How is this fact going to matter when you or your family member is sick and they have to be there for you? How is this fact going to matter when it comes to your kid's upbringing? Start focusing on things that matter. Caste, v-card, none of that is going to help you determine how your partner will treat you, respect you, and love you.

Ignore this rant if you find it outrageous, I know how messed up AM market is. I was just pissed off reading a few of the posts here. Probably going to get downvoted into oblivion, but before you come at me as being defensive, read the line below. :)

Regards,

A frustrated, non-smoking, non-drinking guy, still proudly holding his very precious v-card