situationship or something more?

long story sorry but pls helpšŸ™ i’ve been with this guy for 2 months not together in a relationship but idk what kind of relationship this is tbh😭 before i say more just know he’s a very nice guy and he treats me really well and no he isn’t using me. the things we did together he will always ask for consent before proceeding.
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i met him on november 2024 online and we texted a little bit. after a month we stopped texting and went on with our lives. but last year 2025 around march we started texting again but may 2025 he got a gf, i actually liked him last year so i was heartbroken after finding out. i ghosted him at around august 2025 because mentally i wasn’t doing well and he was also affecting it.

this year may again lol he reached out to me again and told me what happened. the girl he got with last year was super toxic and controlling. he lost a lot of friends and wasn’t allowed to go certain places or do anything. she cheated on him multiple times and was sleeping around with other guys. they broke up 1-2 weeks ago before he reached out to me. we constantly messaged back and forth after he reached out. we finally met up irl on the same month under my block and we kissed/made out. he asked and i gave consent.

after that day, we met up again on june and even had sex. after the first time we had sex i went back and forth with him a lot on what our relationship was because he said he wanted to be friends before we did anything. after i asked he said he wanted to be friends with benefits. i agreed at first but after a week i changed my mind because it felt weird to me. we stopped being fwb but kept meeting up to do stuff. after that, he’ll have issues regarding his ex and come to me for comfort and help and i’ll do my best to help him and it goes both ways. i was having a tough time with personal issues and he helped me and was always there for me.

i never brought the fwb stuff up again but since then we have gotten closer and more comfortable with each other. sex isn’t the most important thing for us now but we do it occasionally. we care about each other and are emotionally ready to comfort one another. now when we hang out irl, other than having sex😭 we would cuddle, joke around and baby each other. but he said before.. before i asked to stop the fwb title that he doesn’t have romantic feelings for me and said that he is not looking to be in a relationship anytime soon. i always doubt him and joke around about him sleeping around and he always reassures me like we are dating. all my friends has told me that i might as well date him. but i haven’t brought it up to him because i feel like he’ll say the same thing which is he doesn’t have romantic feelings for me.

sorry for the long post, pls give me advice if possiblešŸ™

Posted Jul 23, 2026, 10:03 AM UTC

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