How to deal with a freak gap in a relationship
I (23F) have been with my bf (23M) for a few years now and we have a great relationship, but I'm just a lot more interested in sex than he is. It's not that he's super vanilla but Ik I'm more sexual than the average person and I feel like such a freak sometimes lol.
He's non-judgmental and down to try some of the things I bring up, but I'm always the one suggesting.
There's stuff I'm really into that he's indifferent about, he'd indulge for my sake but I don't find it fun unless we're both enthusiastic about it.
And I have other kinks that are just a hard no for him, which I understand. We talk about it super openly and I'd never pressure him into something he didn't want, and he doesn't make me feel bad for being into the stuff I like.
I really care for our relationship and I do enjoy the sex we have, I just feel bummed that there are experiences that we'll never get to share. I’m
wondering has anyone dealt with this and how? Did it work out for you or did sexual compatiulity ever become a dealbreaker?
Posted Jul 23, 2026, 10:07 AM UTC