Husband saying he loves me but would like to be able to have sex with other women.
We are high school sweethearts and got married in our late 20's. Either of us haven't dated anyone else. He says he never got to experience "what's out there".
He had vaguely mentioned it when the topic came up that he would like have sex with other women and I brought this up again recently to see if he was still feeling the same way. I expected his thoughts to change but he still says he feels the same way.
He says he will only do it if I'm fine with it and that he still loves me and wants to come back to me. He says he is fine with me doing the same, sleeping with other men. He isn't trying to persuade me to say yes or anything.
I don't think I can ever look at him the same way after he sleeps with someone else. I don't want to do it either.
I'm feeling unsure about if he really loves me or not after this conversation.
Posted Jul 23, 2026, 10:13 AM UTC