My mom freaked out while watching my kids

Big rant ahead...

So my husband and I decided to let my parents watch our kids for a few hours each day while we were at a 3 day festival. My son is 2.5yo and daughter is 6 mo. We wanted to get a campsite close to the festival because my dad loves to camp, has a nice camper, and we thought it would make it easier since they would be close by if anything happened if they needed us to get there quickly. Plus it was cheaper than 2 hotel rooms.

Before making this camp reservation originally, my husband and I told them that if they weren't able to do this it would be okay because we have other people who can watch them. We thought it would be nice for them to spend time with their grandkids though, since they rarely see them. (This was going to be for a max of like 6 hours each day. We left late since some of the bands we weren't interested in) They insisted they wanted to.

My mom told us while researching camp sites that she needs specific amenities otherwise she won't go, so I found a few that were up to her standard, but even though they had everything they asked for she still isn't happy. She then freaks out and calls me 4-5 times and when I didn't answer since I was taking care of my kids, she goes ahead and gets a campsite herself that was 1.5 hours away from the festival which was just about as far of a drive from our own home so it made no sense to get it. I eventually am done with what I was doing and go to call her back, I told her to call them and cancel this reservation, she freaks out so I called my dad to have him figure it out with her because I couldn't convince her that the campground she wanted wasn't the right fit. They figure it out, she cancels angrily, I pay for the original camp I was going to get and its all fine again.

I seriously wish I would have just found someone else at this point, but they kept insisting they could watch them and that they would be happy to.

Here comes the fest days and they get set up and everything is fine. My husband forgets to tell his boss he couldn't work and had to get off work an hour before we had to leave with a 35 minute drive home so we're stressing to leave on time, but I pack and it works out. We eventually get to the campground a few minutes later than I originally told her but earlier than we said after we left. My mom gets really mad at us for this and tells us that shes doing us a favor and that we're being rude for wasting their time. At this point we have like 30 minutes to make it to our first artist we wanted to see with no time to spare so I make my husband talk it out with her to calm her down because I couldn't. We get the kids settled 15 minutes later and left.

When we left all was good my 6 month old was happy and my 2 year old wanted to play at the playground 25 ft from their camper. They take them for like 10 minutes and text me complaining that they didn't want to stay outside with them for as long as my 2 year old wanted them to. I call them as im driving and tell her its okay and they can go back to the camper if they need to, but I am starting to get the feeling they really just didn't want to watch them and they aren't fit to do this.

Minutes after that I get 4 different texts about how my daughter wont stop crying. At this point we only just got to the festival and its been like 30 minutes. I text her to try the bottle (my daughter is ebf but will take a bottle if needed) she texts me that she wont take the bottle after 3 minutes. I know she didn't really even try to feed her because if she did she would have taken it. I tell her to keep trying and she eventually takes it for her. 30 minutes after that she calls me saying shes crying again and she doesnt know how to stop it. I dont see it right away so she calls my husband 2 times before he answers and has to talk her through how to calm her down. He had to tell her to change her and she said she forgot she had to do that. By now its been only 2 hours since we dropped them off. My son is fine and my daughter had been supposedly changed now. We then get another 3 calls within 10 minutes each call that shes crying again and cant control the crying. We tell her all the tricks and she says shes doing them, but it isn't working. She keeps calling us every 10 minutes. Eventually its like 9:15 and we only got there not even 4 hours ago, she calls us the last time crying and says that she "can't handle it and shes torturing her and she doesn't want to do this anymore because my dad is making her have anxiety about the crying" so we say goodbyes to people and leave because we're super worried. We come to the conclusion to just bring my daughter with us the next day because we cant find someone 2 hours from our house last minute to watch them and my son would be okay with them because he can communicate. We get back and the baby is asleep and so is our son. Im pissed because why tf did we come back early when they're both perfectly fine and sleeping. Obviously we were right to come back because the way she was talking was worrisome, but it was frustrating.

We go to grab food from the camper and see that my dad had drank 1/2 of the bottle of jack that was in there so we got extremely concerned, but he was passed out so we decided to talk to them in the morning. He says he wont drink anymore and we had hoped they would be okay. We hung out with the kids until 5 and left with just our daughter and she was perfect the whole night and he was fine.

The next day im still mad because of the situation and im busy trying to make sure there's enough pumped milk and everything is ready for them when my mom goes to change my sons diaper because he asked her to, she literally just takes off the diaper and puts a new one on him without even wiping so i called her out. She acts oblivious and i do it and she rolls her eyes and tells me im overreacting. I finish pumping and go to the fridge and notice my dad finished off that entire bottle of jack. I tell my husband and he talks to my dad, but they're about to take off to drive both kids to their other grandparents house so they don't have to watch them anymore. I make them stay a little later to make sure he wasnt silly drunk, but my dad after an hour yells at me that he wants to drive home so they leave, he wasnt drunk so its fine. I text my mom every 30 minutes because I'm worried though and they get to their grandparents just fine.

My husband's parents have the best time with the kids my daughter only cried to tell them she was tired and they even sent us pics of her laughing and having fun.

I guess I'm just trying to gather the courage to cut them off or go low contact because this is only the tip of the iceberg of everything they've put me through and now my kids. Its just hard to let go of the version I wish they could be and I feel like i could be overreacting about some of this.