My ex turned into a psycho after I broke up with him.

My ex was a quiet guy. Pleasant, really polite and respectful. He was not super deep when you’d talk to him irl. We talked in class a little but after I got his number it’s like he was a whole different person. He talked to me constantly (like every 30 minutes after I stopped a convo.) we would go down these really deep rabbit holes about values, feelings, whatever else. After we got together, within a few weeks he was already talking about marriage

He also talked to me about his deepest darkest secrets. His dad had gone to jail for killing his mom, he himself was involved in activity w the cops. It’s crazy to me how on text he seemed to have a completely different personality, opened up about trauma and in real life he never appeared to be damaged. ngl it fucked with my head too much. He wouldn’t have the same rabbit hole convos with me and would appear really emotionless. It didn’t help that he was doing drugs at the time too. Other than that it started to really cringe when it came to romantic stuff, he became super attached and fatalistic about himself and it became really painful for me to deal with

After a few months everything built up too much & I broke up with him. Overall it felt like the relationship was about control, and he had creepy thoughts about me that I wasn’t really comfortable with, and I needed to get tf out of there. I had friends telling me this too and that they caught a creepy vibe from him. I was nervous about it a lot because before when I thought I might’ve been asexual he got scared so easily he told me he would go crazy if I broke up with him. (He wasn’t lying) …. So I didn’t tell him the truth. I told him it was because I needed to focus on myself and how much more life there is to live and yeah cheesy shit. I don’t know if I should have been more honest with him

Then my best friend started to have this huge crush on him. That was a whole mess but she liked him because he was a “massive red flag.” She was into people like that

Within a few days I discovered she had been talking to him behind my back. They got together not even a week after and I tried to warn her about how dangerous it is to believe he was genuinely interested. I dumped her, it was a whole mess but I was exhausted for a while and I started talking to a new guy about a month later.

He saw us eating together and looked straightforward at us the whole time walking by, I was creeped tf out. When the guy went to get food my ex pulled him aside and told him that I was crazy. Apparently he tried to tell my friends the same thing but turned away last minute, but his new girlfriend had no recollection of this. Recently, I reconnected with her again and she told me she broke up with him for insulting her friend. He apparently turned into a complete control freak and narcissist, was masochistic & I saw he was practicing some sort of witchcraft (idk, he was also saving pictures of hot witch goth women lol) I was also shocked to see he was bi, after he told me countless times he wasn’t. he would watch her location on maps for hours, have attachment issues with her and wanted to beat up any guy that talked to her. It lasted for 9 months. According to her and his best friend he never mentioned me again after the breakup.

To this day I’m thinking was this my fault? was he like this before, did I dodge a huge bullet? What was he really thinking during our relationship