Red flags.

Boyfriend (30M) and I (24F) moved in together way too fast. So fast I'm embarrassed now but nonetheless.

What I didn't learn in long distance was his money habits. Always borrowing money when car stuff happens or 3 or 4 days before pay check. We just finished a garnishment from him not paying the hospital for 1700. Got a letter in the mail now he owes 6800 and maybe another letter 4300. He always lived with his mawmaw and she never gave him the mail after moving here so he forgot to pay hospital bills. I was Worried to face another garnishment because we scraped by so hard. Folks are saying no garnishment this time just 15 years of payments. He is wanting to file chapter 7 bankruptcy which was my idea because my older brother had half a million in debt from a hospital bill. He seems so confident in bankruptcy now it is making me so nervous. I do most of the cleaning and cooking i am so wpre put this relationship stuff is not fair at all. I pay half rent and all of utilities.

I moved 7 hours away from my home to be with him. He has been wanting me to use my 1300 that I saved in case I had to move back to show loyalty to our relationship. I stood my ground on that one... he made me believe he was going to leave me after a month when I still didn't have a job because I wanted to move back home because he shouts and slams doors and knocks stuff over when he gets "passionate" which is just him not controlling himself. he was raised up abused. I was raised up to not have a opinion and to not speak when spoken to.

He never cooks at home. I try my best to. He eats out way more than me and does not tell me about it. He never hides his phone from me but he about threw a tantrum when I asked to see his spending on his app. I've layed put a budget and he was already $10 over his first week for 2 weeks of money.

I keep our savings hidden, he knows we have it I just won't tell him where it's at. I leave cash out when the mow man comes to mow and boyfriend borrows the cash because he didn't go by his budget.

Yall. These money mishaps keep adding up. I am 7 hours away from home. It seems so scary to break up with him because of money things but it seems like he is going to ruin whatever we build or have.

We have lived together for almost 9 months. I tried to go back home the second month and when he made me believe he was gonna leave me here with no sight of a job I had to say okay I love you ill try to work it out.

He has lied about things like this. Please talk some sense into me. Can we recover from this. I am so tired of all of it he has stressed me out beyond

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