Private Golf Club Recommendations

Moving the family to San Diego and looking for the right private club setup. We’ve got two young boys (6 and 4), so family amenities and a solid junior scene are huge for us. I’m coming from a very middle-class background—recently came into money, but I’m strictly looking for a laid-back, zero-ego vibe with a great golf course. Santaluz seems like the frontrunner from my initial research, but I’d love some candid feedback on the culture there versus other local clubs.