I've been putting myself out there to make more female friends but to no avail! What is the issue?

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I'm 23F. Long story short, I didn't have a very social childhood, finally moved out of my house last year, and have been delving into my hobbies hoping to find some like-minded female friends.

I regularly go swimming, take boxing and guitar classes, go on treks every weekend, and I live in the heart of Bengaluru. But I am yet to find anyone who is similar to me and I can get along with. I either find 45 year old aunties who are curious about my life and ask questions, which is fine but I can't really be friends with them; or I find girls who are way too different from me in terms of ideals and values.(Eg there was a girl in swimming who I talked to once, but I felt she was so feeble and shy and all she did was small talk even though I was trying to bring up more interesting topics like trekking or swimming) I kinda wanna have friends who are chill and have strong opinions and are not scared to talk about them.

Also, I find that many girls don't even like the hobbies they are doing as much. If I talk about how much I like swimming, I just get a "meh it's alright, I'm just here for timepass." kinda answers.

I thought that by being myself and doing the things I love I will eventually meet like minded people but it's just not happening. Is there a problem with me? Idts cz the friends I do have from home say that I give off friendly and good vibes.

PS: I also know the local language Kannada fluently, and I know Hindi as well.

Posted Jul 26, 2026, 11:35 PM UTC

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