my boyfriend is a porn addict

I (24) have been with him (25) for 4 years. We have always been very open about using eachother‘s phones. He has my password, I have his. Never because of lack of trust. Simply just for spotify and texting friends (we have a lot of the same friends).

Well about a year ago I was sending photos to myself from his phone and found a huge stash of the same 2 porn stars in well very graphic and closeups. I was hurt by this. He’s always made it clear he was into me but these women looked nothing like me. It hurt. I talked to him about it and we set boundaries and he said he wouldnt continue it.

To be clear, I knew he watched porn. We were always very open about it. I just didnt know how often he did or that it was always the same girls.

Well a few months went by, I was on his phone again and bam found the same thing. I was very hurt that he did it again after our talk. He knew I was hurt and was thinking about ending our relationship. But we talked again… set more boundaries. Made myself very clear. And we had been good since.

Until this morning… this time I did actually go snooping on his phone trying to find something. Well he had a hidden app. Telegram. And bam a shit ton of porn groups he was in. He doesnt know yet that I found that this morning. I’m really hurt. He broke my trust by continuing this and trying to hide it. idk anymore. just want advice please

Posted Jul 26, 2026, 11:50 PM UTC

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