Me (27) and my boyfriend (25) of two years feel like he's keeping score

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One thing that's really been bothering me happened after I asked my boyfriend to do the dishes. Later, while he was driving, I happened to see a photo of the dirty dishes in his camera roll. I asked him if he was keeping tallies of chores because it seemed odd to take a picture of dirty dishes. He said, "No, stop assuming and being negative. I just take random photos of things," so I dropped it. What made it harder for me to believe that explanation is that before this, I'd suggested we make a shared cleaning checklist because I feel like he keeps track of chores in his head and often forgets or overlooks the cooking, cleaning, and looking after his dog that I do. I even suggested we make a shared cleaning checklist because I feel like he keeps track of chores in his head and often forgets or overlooks the cooking, cleaning, and looking after his dog that I do. I even suggested making it fun instead of competitive—for example, whoever did the most dishes that week could choose their favourite snacks or a date night paid for by the other person. He didn't like the idea and said it felt like keeping tallies. That's why finding a photo of the dishes in his phone afterwards confused me and made me wonder if he was keeping score after all. TL;DR