One of my very close friends for whom i have lot of respect and love is stuck with a crush he had for over 4 years. While this guy never dated or had a talking situation for the first 26 years of his life. 

He both doesn’t smoke, drink or do anythingi ithat a typical teenager does but he’s absolutely horrible when it comes to normal male experiences! 

So, tea is that, he likes a girl who is 5 years younger than him and is obviously way over his league (my guy is easily overweight and obese 110+). But the girl doesn’t reciprocate any of his feelings and sees him as a brother! 

All of this started because she texted him regularly for a week (almost like replying to his messages im sure) and this began a new whirlwind of feelings inside this guy who never had any female friendship or contact.

Im unsure if he can ever have honest friendship with any girl because he’s feels a girl will text back more than once if only she’s interested. 

He proposed and she rejected him couple of times but this guy cannot stop stalking her profile, whomever she follows or likes posts of, literally the textbook definition of stalker! I hate this side of him 

His only argument is that he’s a good guy and the girl should like him back because he’s been nice to her (im sure the girl was creeped out by his intrusive questions) 

I tried telling him this wont work and he needs to stop but he just cant let go of her! Im all for listening to your troubles and supporting but this has gone out of proportion now! 

He cant even find a new hobby or something to do apart from crying over a girl who texted him regularly for couple of weeks and has been cold since! And now this resulted in a 4 years bickering for a guy. (I do not blame the girl at all) 

As you can see in the second screenshot, he just got approached by someone (finally 🙏) but look at his response. Guy just lost all his self esteem trying to beg his way into a relationship and now can’t talk a female without putting himself down. 

How do i make him normal? How do i help him out of this toxic cycle? How can i be a better friend and not be icked out by his actions or comments ? 

Low self esteem bestie stalks his crush chronically