Looking for an mmorpg

I'm still fairly new to MMORPGs. I’ve been playing them for about 5–6 years. I strongly prefer the classic tab-targeting combat system.

One thing I know for sure is that I'm not into the typical Asian MMO aesthetic (Black Desert or Aion, for example). I just don't enjoy worlds where everyone looks ridiculously fabulous. I usually create characters that look like complete abominations, so that art style just isn't for me.

I've tried a lot of MMORPGs, but none have quite scratched the very specific itch I'm looking for. I enjoy PvE content like leveling, dungeons, and raids, but PvP is my big love.

WoW is almost the perfect MMORPG for me, but its PvP is the biggest disappointment. While it's excellent at what it does, I don't like that it often feels like everything revolves around DPS. The other archetypes don't feel nearly as impactful as I'd like, and the gameplay reminds me more of a MOBA than an MMORPG. It feels like playing Dota 2 or League of Legends, just with more abilities.

Right now I'm playing Warhammer Online: Return of Reckoning, and its PvP is exactly what I'm looking for. Every archetype has a meaningful role, and large-scale battles feel fantastic. Unfortunately, the game's performance is terrible. In big fights I drop to around 15 FPS, which makes it frustrating and, at times, almost unplayable.

Dark Age of Camelot also looked promising, but the UI/UX and controls feel extremely dated, and I'm struggling to get into it because of that.

So far I've tried:

WoW (Wrath of the Lich King)

Warhammer Online: Return of Reckoning

EverQuest

EverQuest II

The Lord of the Rings Online

Star Trek Online

Star Wars: The Old Republic

Anarchy Online

Dark Age of Camelot

City of Heroes

The Secret World

Albion Online

Ryzom

Rift

So, in summary, I'm looking for an MMORPG with both PvE and PvP (a PvP focus would be ideal). Tab-targeting combat. PvP where every archetype has a meaningful role, similar to Return of Reckoning. A non-Asian art style/world.