I can't orgasm.

Hi everyone. I made a throwaway account because I, quite frankly, was too embarassed to post this on my main account.

Me (F), and my boyfriend (M), have been together for quite a bit now. We were long distance up until about a month ago, when I moved in with him. We have a lot of love and care for each other. We lost our virginity to each other the night I moved in, and to be honest, it hurt a lot for me. He was very gentle and nervous and kept asking if I was alright. All in all what I am trying to say is that he is a very gentle, loving guy.

Anyways, since then, we have had sex pretty often. But heres the thing. I can't seem to orgasm. In fact, I have never orgasmed from solo play either.

We have tried so much and it makes us both pretty sad. He wants to help me but we just cant figure it out. Clitoral stimulation won't work with my fingers or his fingers. We have tried oral. A vibrator on multiple settings. Either my clit won't react at all or it gets too overwhelming and I push him away or I stop what I'm doing. He has tried fingering and oral. Vibrator and oral. Vibrator and fingering. Vibrator by itself. Oral by itself. Fingering by itself. We spend so much time doing foreplay but it never makes a difference because being touched down there overwhelms me.

Penetration feels good sometimes. Every now and then he will hit a good spot and it feels nice but it never goes anywhere. After about a minute or two I can't even feel him inside of me anymore. Either that or it feels like he is hitting my stomach. We have tried clitoral and penetration at the same time and it just gets too overwhelming. I have tried using the vibrator over underwear. Still doesnt feel good. Oh and we have tried lube. Lots of lube, a little lube. Oh also anal. I hated it, it felt like reverse shitting. It was awful.

Me and him openly talk about this. He feels terrible every time we have sex because I can't finish. It makes me very upset as well. Not at him. Never at him. I just think I am broken. I am pretty hypersexual (wanting to have sex, getting turned on very easily, getting wet easily) so I have all of these feelings that I don't know what to do with.

I don't know. Theres probably some things I left out but I swear we have tried so many positions, paces, techniques. Nothing works. It makes me so very sad. Genuinely. I know it may sound dramatic but sometimes I cry. I love this man so much and I know it hurts him that he can't pleasure his woman. We have tried going at it for hours, but eventually I have him stop because nothing feels good. The weird thing is that I get turned on easily and I get wet fairly easily but I dont know. This is all so disheartening.

I know reddit can't fix me but maybe yall can give me some tips.

Feel free to ask any questions, even if theyre considered "weird". I need to get to the bottom of this.

(P.S) We are not going to watch porn together. So thats out of the question.

Please help.

-a very sexually frustrated young woman.