Will they admit after the breakup?

My wife left me after 5 years about 3 weeks ago. I’d been struggling and I knew it weighed on her, and there were a lot of things I should’ve done better.

About a month before she asked to divorce, she took on wedding planning for a new friend. She got really close with the couple and was always hanging out with them. I had an issue with this and brought it up repeatedly.

When she told me, I asked if there was anyone else. She paused for a while, then said no, but she wanted there to be. I pressed if this was a real person and she insisted it wasn’t, she just misspoke and meant she wanted to be with another person in a general sense.

She’s an avoidant and is barely talking to me, but insists nothing has happened. That said, on our credit card she got a wax before taking a trip with this couple this weekend and I found “I Love You” notes in our dresser. She’s written these before for people I know are just friends, but it all seems too convenient.

We’re not getting back together, but not knowing if she’s been lying is driving me crazy. She’s a genuinely very good person, but I’m wondering if what’s sent her into this detached, avoidant state is the guilt and feels like she’s in too deep to tell me