Pls help.. just stared ldr

Hi everyone. I’m 22F and my boyfriend is 21M. We recently started long distance because he moved to an East Asian country for college while I stayed in my South Asian country.
I knew it would be hard, but I didn’t expect the adjustment to hit me this much. Before this, we had a routine of talking every day, watching shows together, and sharing little things about our lives. Now that he’s moved, I’m struggling with the uncertainty and not knowing when we’ll talk next.
The hardest part is that I do trust him. He hasn’t given me a reason to feel insecure, and I genuinely want him to enjoy this new chapter, make friends, and have experiences. I just miss him and our old routine so much.
I also feel guilty because I don’t want to burden him while he’s adjusting, but this change affects me too. Sometimes I feel like I need reassurance more than I used to, and I hate feeling clingy.
There have also been a few moments where I feel like when I share something about my day, the conversation turns into a comparison between our lives in different countries. I don’t think he means it badly, but sometimes I just want him to listen and say “that sounds difficult” rather than compare.
The confusing thing is that whenever we talk, I feel better. It still feels like us. I know this is probably just an adjustment period, but I’m struggling right now.
For people who have been through long distance:
Did the first few weeks feel this overwhelming?
How long did it take to build a new routine?
How do you balance needing reassurance while also giving your partner space?
I’m trying my best, I just want to know if this gets easier.

Posted Jul 27, 2026, 7:18 AM UTC

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