What do you do when.. (too much to ask)

What do you do when you're getting when you were like "Whassat" during 9/11 and could not comprehend the meaning of what had happened, growing up with that as what everyone else remembers, thinking "all I am worth is what I can provide"..

What do you do when you've felt that hammered into you from your infancy and, the moment you recognize it's not okay and try to stand up for yourself, nobody is willing to accept or acknowledge you.