Is any of this abuse or am I just dramatic?

I have a few situations so I’m just putting it all in one post

my only family I’m in contact with is my immediate family. my parents are really cool and easygoing and My house is generally a safe space for my friends. but recently I’ve noticed my parents, my dad specifically, are really sexual all the time, even in front of their kids.

I enjoy a fair share of sexual humour being a teen boy and stuff, and I’m able to make jokes like that with my dad, but as I’ve gotten older they’ve become more frequent and explicit? I’m aware my Relationship with him is odd at best but I don’t know if it’s abuse.

he tells me things about his sex life with my mom that I’d really rather not know. Stuff he doesn’t tell my other siblings and he tells me not to tell my mom he told me cuz she’d be upset. When I was 13-14(I don’t remember) he showed me their sex toy collection. I think the casual chats about sex started when I was like 10. Also when I got my first packer (im ftm) he compared dick sizes with me? It was in his pants but still. idk.

In the kitchen and stuff my parents will (almost daily) makeout and grind on each other. we live in a sex positive household and my parents are fairly young so I don’t rlly feel comfortable to say anything but I really hate it!!

another thing is that I experience frequent and intense pain in my joints and lower back. I complained about it a lot when I was younger but stopped a few yrs ago cuz they never did anything about it. i asked for a cane because it would rlly help me and my mom told me that someone my age should only use a cane if somethign is seriously wrong with them. Then she took me to a chiropractor. I did the things and the stuff he told me to do but it hasn’t helped and these past few days I haven’t been able to do anything because of a flare up And they don’t care. i want help but I don’t want more supplements or natural remedies or another visit to the chiropractor or the pharmacist because none of that has worked before!! i haven’t been to a doctor in yrs since we immigrated and I’m not able to go on my own

ive also always had sleep issues but my parents never did anything about it until it started affecting my schoolwork and the supplements I’m on aren’t working anymore probably because my mom is giving them to my whole family and then forgetting to buy more before we run out

I begged for years to go to a therapist and i finally got to go and I love my therapist but I can’t talk about my parents with her. after every session they ask me what I talked about and i Have to prepare a lie in advance if I want to lie. If I don’t Tell them they assume it was about them! And then if I tell them it was about them they demand to know what I was talking about!

recently my dad accused me of “pushing a narrative” that they’re awful and implied it was just to make myself miserable after I relapsed on self harming. He said a lot of other awful things but I’m not able to recall them right now. but him saying that really made me doubt if any of this is actually abuse or if I’m just a little bitch.

sorry this is long and ramble-y it’s like 4 in the morning and I can’t sleep