Grandpa Moved On

My MIL passed away about 1.5 years ago. She was a wonderful grandma. She didn’t have the best of health but always was there to support us. She was the glue that held all the family together and when she says she loves you, it’s not just words but action as well. My FIL was a great and he supported us, as well as helped us with our kid who was between 1 and 2 when she passed.

When my MIL passed, as you expected, the glue came off. My FIL met someone about 6 weeks after she had passed and he was upset at every family members (except us) because we visited and tried our best to be with our MIL. He pretty much cut everyone but us. He used to visit us and have dinner every week but slowly, he started paying attention to his new girlfriend and next thing you know we are only given Monday through Thursday because his new girlfriend was working and weekend is hers. The visits became less and less and up to one point, he went almost 5 months without visiting and only called us to take care of the dogs.

Eventually, we adopted the dogs as he was asking almost everyone if they wanted to. He made promise to my MIL that he would take care of them. Also, for bonus drama, he added his new girlfriend into his will just 6 months of knowing her and had her on all the titles. We don’t really care about the money and was really chasing the relationship but did anyone ever experience something like this? He’s pretty much doing the very same thing to my wife and kid at what he was upset about. People not visiting enough, say hi and leave real fast and so so.

Eventually we texted him about some of the lack of interaction and his text ended with “wish you peace and happiness”. It was his birthday and his girlfriend had rented a private jet but never invited us. Did take her daughter along and turned into an engagement party.

Other things to note, He doesn’t even know how old or my grandson’s birthday but when I asked him when is his girlfriend’s birthday, he sure answered it in less than 2 seconds. I guess now his last text means the rope has drop. My son barely interacts with him when he sees him. Once, he took so long to visit, my son didn’t recognize him. My FIL is also pretty wealthy and is spending his money traveling. He even went to Polar express with us snd Disney with his girlfriend and never bought anything for my son (i even paid for his polar express ticket).