A family member needs help, I’m concerned

Do I confront her about her self harm? How can I bring it up without scaring her away? I need advice on how to properly navigate this situation

I don’t get to see her in person, but we’re very close. There have been certain events in her life she’s told me about, and I think it may be contributing as to why she’s self harming. I haven’t said anything yet, and I’m ashamed I haven’t asked for advice sooner. If you need additional details, I’d be willing to provide them