Dinner is just a plate of my usual whatever I just had: this time a baguette with some spread, veggies, cheese and cabanos

First time poster, I’m here to brag, hope that’s okay!

I'm in my early 30s and single for more than two years now. My last relationship was short but intense, and a total mess and hurt a lot. Since then I usually just go in and out of situationships and fwb situations with guys who claim they don't want to get serious with anyone, but then they leave me to start a relationship with someone else. "Ideally" without telling me and being weird about it. I had this happen once again just last week, and it made me realize I can't do this anymore and need to leave it be and be either fully single, or I start looking for a serious relationship, in which a man actually chooses me and doesn't take me just as an option when nothing else is available.

So, clearly, after making this decision, on Tinder I matched with a guy who's traveling and is spending just a few days in my city, therefore pretty much the oposite of what I said I would be looking for. There was just something about him that made me want to see him, even if it's just once. After matching him I decided to message him first. Also not my typical move, I generally don't like dating apps much and always struggle with how to open the whole conversation and not ruin it already in the beginning. He responded the next day, we exchanged a few messages, not much, but a good flow. We planned a date, decided to go for a beer. We talked about oversharing beforehand as I warned him I am an oversharer, and we came to the conclusion, that considering the situation of meeting just once, there's no better time to overshare than now.

I have to say, I didn't have any expectations at all. From the few messages I didn't really feel a spark, it gave me more of a friendly vibe. But that's okay, I still wanted to chat with someone from another country, that's always cool.  
We met and went for a couple of beers, talked. It was nice, talking to him was soooo easy. We did follow through with the oversharing and talked about topics that usually would a be a big no on a first date. Mostly breakups and exes in more detail than would be welcomed if we'd hoped for more dates or a relationship. From that we shifted to the topic of relationships in general, we talked about monogamy, polyamory, and other concepts of dating and all around that. We seemed to have very similar views on these topics.  
But it all still felt very "just a friendly beer". There was absolutely no physical contact the whole date, he didn't try anything. I was so sure that he’s not interested in anything else, that we won't even kiss, and we're gonna go our separate ways. What a surprise it was when, after paying our last drinks and slowly finishing them, he asked me if I want to go to his place - using a very obvious excuse of wanting to show me something, and we both joked about it. I said yes - I mean, that man is leaving my country soon, so what's there to wait for?!

At this point our only physical touch was just a brief, polite hug as a greeting when we met. On our way to his place he got a bit more touchy, hugs me, but no kissing. But it was just like a 5 minute walk. Once we step into the apartment, I don’t even get the chance to see the place - he immediately starts kissing me, pins me to the wall next to the door and we’re all over each other. He then navigates me to a couch that’s just a few steps from us. We never made it to the bedroom.

For context, I’m kinky and 100% submissive. But started fully realizing and admitting it just around three years ago, so I still feel kinda new to it and not experienced enough. This guy starts it off pretty vanilla - and not once did I get the idea he could be anything else than vanilla. After some time of fun, when he’s already inside of me, he gently puts his hand on my neck. Not even really around it, just a careful touch. But I love being choked. I couldn’t help it and had a slight reaction to this touch, which he noticed…and asked me if I like it rough. I’m pretty sure he did it on purpose to find out, as we didn’t talk about it before. He later admitted my opinions about relationships we talked about in the pub made him think I could be into this dynamic. After I confirmed he completely changed his approach, in the best way possible.

He talks dirty to me, chokes me, pulls my hair, slaps me, uses me…All that with consent, constantly checking in if I’m okay, and switching it up with intense cuddles and hugs every now and then. He repeats what a good girl I am and it makes me melt instantly. He tells me what to do. I’ve never had anyone praise me so much and OH MY GOD. He enjoys me so much, tells me how hot and good I am, how everything I do to him is great and he’s vocal about it and moans a lot (what a rare find!). He takes really good care of me too and somehow barely needs any navigation on his movements (a miracle in my case) - but still double checks, if he should do something differently. At one point I noticed I can see us fucking in some reflection, and for the first time I didn’t have the instant urge to turn away and avoid looking at myself in this situation. For the first time ever I thought we look hot and wanted to see it.

He told me repeatedly that it’s so good he wants to remember it. He also tries to ask if he could make a video to capture a memory - I deny it, he understands and respects it, but I fully take that as a compliment. I never had interest in having a video of myself having sex, I always thought it would look bad, but actually, this time hits different and if he wouldn’t be a stranger, I would be tempted to say yes.  
One time I felt like he’s coming close to finish, so I ask if he wants to cum for me. He denies and says he definitely doesn’t want this to end yet, he wants to enjoy me much much longer. And he did. In comparison with the whole session, that part was still the beginning.

I got fucked so goooooood. It’s a very uncommon thing for me on a first date. Even when I sleep with a guy on the first date, it tends to be weird, awkward, it takes a few more times to get comfortable, especially with my kinks. But this one? We clicked so instantly, I’m still in shock.

Also, I learned I apparently like when he spits in my mouth. Crazy hot.  
The whole night was incredibly hot. And let me tell you, his dick was…a big surprise hehe (pun intended). And he knoooows how to move.

He did what he wanted to me and I loved it.  
A few times he said he’s never been so hard. Of course I can’t really confirm that, but what I can confirm is, that I haven’t had a guy be so hard for me for a long time. I don’t think he went fully soft the whole time, even during breaks. It was insane. Especially considering we’ve been drinking the whole night before coming to his place. He complimented my body, including my vulva and vagina. Never had anyone tell me my vulva is pretty and it was surprisingly nice to hear. Along the way he also said I’m good at sex. I’ve always been so insecure about myself in this, I might have had some signs, but never wanted to ask about it because it felt weird. He told me without me initiating it and I never got such a clear confirmation.

I’m gonna chase that high for a long time. That was possibly the best sex I ever had. Great dick, great communication, great feeling, great everything. 15/10, would definitely do it again.

There might be some moments of sadness that I’m never gonna see the guy again, but on the other hand, some things are supposed to just happen once and that’s the magic of it. No more, no less, one unforgettable night. Simple as that.

Surprising date with a man I’m never gonna see again