What to do

I came here to see what your guys’s opinions are. I married my high school sweetheart at 19. we tried having a baby - couldn’t. Found out He had a low sperm count. about six months after finding out that information I found out that he was having an affair and the girls husband came to my place of employment to tell me that, which I suspected because he wasn’t coming home at night until four or five in the morning. we got a divorce however, before I could get everything moved out of the house, he took the keys off the key ring. This sets the precedent as to the family. I asked my then brother-in-law to help me move out. He had just divorced his wife that he dated seven years and only married a year so he would know how I felt so we started hanging out. I got pregnant. We continue to date off and on. he was not willing to tell his family about me or the pregnancy. he would sneak me in and out of his house so that his family wouldn’t see. he never called hardly ever. he was always doing his own thing. there were times that I would be at his house and other girls would come over and I was left alone. We did eventually get married in front of a judge and we didn’t do anything for a honeymoon. He wanted to work on things in the garage that day. the day that we got married, I got a ting in my gut and at the time I was so young I didn’t even know what that meant. Our marriage has been rocky. We don’t put anything together, finances checking account. However, our house is together. at 37 I decided to go back to nursing school to try to better myself because I kept getting jobs that would layoff they would leave the state they would close so I thought going to nursing school would give me a steady income. right before I graduated from nursing school I got pregnant completely out of the blue. I hadn’t been on birth control in 10 years and we gave up trying to have another one. I graduated from nursing school at 40 which in doing that I had already established a life and debt so I took out student loans. I continue to go through school getting my EMS, my fire, my masters degree in nursing to finish it off - 13 years of schooling. I’ve acquired a lot of student loan debt. with that being said I went into Travel Nursing to try to get the debt paid for quicker. nothing has worked out as planned my entire life no matter how diligent I try to plan it nothing’s worked out, so I’m not any closer to paying anything off. My husband suspected that his plant was going to close so he had taken out a HELOC loan on the house to pay off all of his debt & his truck to prepare for the closure. He did not tell me about this HELOC loan he called me one day to say are you home? I said yes - he said there’s gonna be a woman stopping in a few minutes to have you sign for HELOC loan. I’m gonna pay off everything I was so flabbergasted that he kept this from me. I did sign the papers. He did pay off his debt and his truck. then he lost his job of 40 years took out his retirement to pay off the house, etc. I recently found out that my husband just took out another HELOC loan on the house to buy my son a toy a Side-by-side. I don’t think that this is right we are married. We should be working together to try to come up with solutions. yes I understand the student loans is my debt and he says it’s not his debt and he’s not paying for it however, I do believe that if we’d work together cohesively that maybe we wouldn’t be in this situation I don’t know. Tell me if I’m wrong a lot of red flags with this relationship I should’ve never gotten married. It’s all about money to him and in my eyes enjoy life You can’t take money with you Kind of thing. I still don’t think that a married couple should have secrets like this taking loans out on the house, etc. the relationship was always walking on eggshells. I’ve had people tell me that he’s a narcissist. He didn’t want me to go to nursing school and I feel like he’s punishing me because he didn’t want me to better myself. There were just so many red flags before we got married. I should’ve never married.Him. I’m still doing the Travel Nursing thing and he never caused to check on me or anything. Am I being unreasonable here? I live very conservatively I travel in my camper. I don’t buy expensive clothes, jewelry purses nothing - the most expenses I have are in vitamins with my autoimmune disease.