[22F4M] Germany/Europe/Anywhere | Looking for my person

Hi! 👋🏾
I’m here because I’d genuinely like to meet someone I can build a real relationship with. I’m not looking for casual dating, something purely online, or endless talking with no direction.
I like getting to know someone through meaningful conversation first and seeing whether the chemistry develops naturally. If we click, I’d rather eventually move to voice/video calls and meeting in person than stay online indefinitely.
Please put a little effort into your first message. I won’t respond to just “hey”, “wyd” or “what’s up?” Tell me who you are and what made you want to message me.

About me
- I’m 22, Nigerian, and currently finishing my bachelor’s in Ukraine. I’m moving to Germany next year for my Master’s.
- I’m completely open to long distance, provided there’s a realistic intention to eventually close the distance.
- 160 cm, dark-skinned, curvier build, and regularly in the gym.
- I’m introverted and shy person in general, but once I’m comfortable, I’m a big yapper. I could be a keyboard warrior too so I might not seem so shy on text even at the beginning.
- I love deep conversations, emotional intimacy, consistency, and people who are genuinely curious about each other.
- I enjoy calm indie music, thrillers, cafés, Pinterest, Substack, reading, photography and exploring beautiful places.
- There are honestly so many things I want to experience and try, so I’d love someone who wants to build those memories with me.
- I recently started learning German, so English is currently my only functional language. 😭

What I’m looking for
I’m looking for someone 22–27 who:
- Is based in Germany or elsewhere in Europe. If you’re anywhere else in the world, you’d need to be genuinely open to travelling and eventually relocating.
- Is emotionally intelligent, honest, funny and stable.
- Is curious and genuinely enjoys getting to know their partner.
- Communicates well and values consistency.
- Takes pride in their appearance and has a sense of personal style.
- Ideally enjoys going to the gym too.
- Is an unapologetic hopeless romantic and lover boy. 🥹

Physical attraction matters.
I’m very aware that attraction is personal and instinctive, so I’m not trying to prescribe one specific “type”. I do know that I’m generally drawn to men who take pride in themselves, have a strong sense of personal style, look put-together and have a confident, effortless presence.
I’d rather establish mutual attraction early than spend weeks getting emotionally invested and discover we’re not physically compatible. So you should be ready to send a couple of your recent best photos. I’ll happily exchange mine too.

Dealbreakers
- Smoking.
- Poor hygiene.
- Very religious / religion being a major factor in your everyday life. I’m agnostic and don’t mind someone being religious, but we’d probably be incompatible if religion has to dictate how we live our relationship.
- Inconsistent communication. I completely understand being busy. What matters to me is communicating rather than leaving your partner guessing.
- Inappropriate or overly sexual behaviour early on.
- If most of your online presence revolves around NSFW/sexual content, we’re definitely looking for very different things.
- I’m not looking for a platonic friendship or an indefinite pen-pal situation.

If you’ve read this far and think you fit the criteria, tell me:
- Who you are.
- What you’re looking for.
- What caught your attention about my post.
- Your favourite emoji, so I know you actually read everything.

I’d be happy to hear from you.

P.S. I understand how it might feel when you take your time to write something long and thoughtful and then there’s no attraction. If you don’t want to write a long introduction before knowing whether we’re mutually attracted, you can send a photo first. Just be willing to introduce yourself properly afterwards if we both feel a spark.

Thanks for reading!