My (32M) new GF (27F) keeps lying about her past. Leave?

We met five months ago and were basically exclusive from day one, and in love with each other after only a few weeks. I made it official with her a month ago.

She had been single for about three years before this.

In that time, she slept with about 20 different men (most of which she says happened in the first 18 months of being single), and says how most of them were on the first date. Now I’m no saint, but dam, that’s some run.

Yes it bothers me. But I know from experience you can do all that, and still be capable of going deep with one person. She also claims to have not been doing that for at least a year 🤷🏾‍♂️

During this time, she also had a two and a half year on-and-off situationship with someone she knew wasn’t a long term option (a wasteman dealer). They tried to make it official at the tail end, and it quickly didn’t work for her. That ended, and she met me very shortly after.

Both these things she puts down to convenience, being lonely, feeling unloveable and having very low self-esteem. And honestly, I believe her.

When I sort clarity on these two areas of her life, she gave sincere answers. And I openly told her that I needed to understand the situationship thing before moving forward officially. I got answers, and made it official.

BUT….

One month later we are chilling and she is on her phone (which she is very open on and never hides). She had posted a Instagram story of us two, and two men reacted to it.

I thought “fuck it”, and quizzed her on them, we both agreed messaging was cheating…and to be fair she hadn’t replied to either of them.

But I asked her about them.

One guy, she said she hadn’t spoken to in 18 months. So I ask to see, and the last messages were 7 months ago. And they went on a weekend trip (including sex) only 12 months ago. So she completely lied about the timeframe.

The second guy. She said they met on holiday and they only kissed. Turns out, she flew to see him a second time, and they had sex (that lie came out weeks later, she doesn’t know I know about this yet).

Now the situationship guy? If she lied about these two, is she lying about him?

Early she told me “I don’t have him on anything”, that turned out to be a lie. She still had him on Instagram & Snapchat, albeit there were no messages for months.

Three lies about three guys. All small and basically completely unnecessary. All three she made to try and not make a big thing of it (I do get jealous).

But in the process, she has damaged my trust.

I have absolutely no faith in her situationship story now…which is what I needed to understand to feel safe about entering a relationship with her.

The amount of one nighters, plus the willingness to engage with non-long term wasters is one thing. But to have to swallow that with a bag of lies and omissions, is a whole new thing.

This really sucks. I love her so much. She is kind and funny and smart. She works really hard and is great at what she does professionally. She’s beautiful and our chemistry is just incredible. She tells me she’s never felt like this before….shes given me no reason to think she isn’t loyal. She wants kids and marriage with me etc. I really could imagine us having a great life. And she is moving her whole life to be with me in a different city.

BUT…

What am I to make of these stupid lies?

And is someone like this worth being with if they haven’t done the work to value themselves properly?

Sometimes I feel like I came onto her with my tidal wave of intention and healthy love…and it’ll end up crashing down on me hard.

Thoughts?

I want to be with her so badly, but the lies, the pointless stupid lies 😭

She has also said a couple of seriously red flag things during moments of anger when talking about the past… such as “I now know the perfect revenge if you cheat on me “ (the situationship guy), and saying “she doesn’t know if she’d have another whore phase if I broke her heart”.

It’s like….ahhhhh, she can’t stop saying stop shit that reveals she hasn’t actually grown from poor past choices.

Please help.