Take out a loan for my mom?

Misc Advice

To cut things short my mom 43 yr F has been struggling since the death of my little sister in 2023 and the loss of her job
In 2024 I became a nurse and have been helping her, but to no avail since now I’m paying for my own stuff from helping (just credit card).
My family is in Spain and my mom wants to get her citizenship and leave .

My family is pressuring me and asking me to take out a big loan, they even told me they would help a bit with it (which I’ll be honest, I doubt it)

I went to see my mom prior to this call and she called me a horrible daughter for not sending monthly payments and a horrible person and that she didn’t want to even speak to me ever. I asked my boyfriend at the time and he told me he would’ve taken a loan if it was him, which makes me feel even worse for not doing it.

Should I take out a loan? Her rent is $2,100, and the citizenship is $1,300 (Taking lawyer fees)
She would be able to rest from paying stuff and then leave and they would help me pay for it or at least that’s what my family is saying

Thoughts?

Posted Jul 29, 2026, 1:05 PM UTC

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