Should I leave my boyfriend because he is not taking me on dates?
Me (16) and my boyfriend (17) have been dating for a little over a year. We have a very healthy relationship. When we argue we never yell at each other and usually work it out and apologize quickly. Although, about 7 months into us dating he cheated on me. He was texting a girl he used to go to school with which ended up escalating into having conversations about sex and what they would do if they were together at that time. The girl in the situation told me that they sent pictures back and forth but my boyfriend said that he didn’t so I’m not sure what to believe there. Anyway, after that happened we broke up and got back together and he said he would be better and he even got me a promise ring. It has been a little over 7 months since that happened. He hasn’t done anything since then and has been a good boyfriend and we have had a very good and healthy relationship. Now, my feeling towards him has felt different. I have told him multiple times that I want to taken out on dates, given flowers, and get love letters or random surprises. He always tells me that he doesn’t have the money for anything because he doesn’t have a job. I have also told him that the money doesn’t matter. He could find ways to show that he loves me that cost little to nothing. Even after that he still does nothing for me. When we do go out, I have to plan it or pay for everything. I don’t mind paying, but I would just like to have one night where he takes me out. I just don’t feel appreciated and heard anymore and I feel like this is really taking a toll on us. The excitement for me to see him is gone and we have started to bicker more and sometimes I don’t even want to be around him. I really do love him but I am wondering if this is just a rough patch or if I should end it. Any advice would be very appreciated 😊
Posted Jul 30, 2026, 2:09 PM UTC