Rules?

Husband POV: I am just now realizing that rules or maybe more specifically guidelines could be very helpful. When my wife and I stepped into the lifestyle it was a few months after meeting. There was such a rush. After actually starting a family together things became more challenging. After child birth it was non existent. We are now in our 40s and what a rush it is to jump back into it! I feel like when we started I was just so happy to have a woman that was into the idea of getting fucked for me while I was there or not there. We would text all day about which one of my friends she wanted to fuck for me. Years later it’s different. That’s my wife. I feel a responsibility to keep her safe. It would be a challenge to explain to my family what happened and how it happened. I’d never want them questioning her integrity. She goes to see an ex pretty regularly and it’s been exciting for both of us. But last night was different. We weren’t on good terms when she left. There was family drama. Suddenly the thrill of a hotwife experience lost its luster and I found myself missing my wife like crazy. It dawned on me that I still enjoy the hotwife experience, but we might need rules. I’m not a fan of rules in general so I’m thinking more guidelines that keep us both having fun. Thoughts? Have yall had any guidelines that have helped yall keep the LS enjoyable?